A friend in need is a friend indeed. It's been a long time since I heard people used that proverb. The last time I heard people keep on using it was during SPM years when we are struggling to get an A+ for our essay. By putting those proverb or idiom, I have a high hope that my English teachers will be happy. Not sure if they really do as I never asked. Hehe.
Have you ever thought why the proverb was made? Do read about the ambiguity of this so called proverb/idiom. I am also not sure do we call this proverb or idiom? Correct me if I am wrong. Been reading too much novel I forgot how proper English function.
Well basically it means when a friend stay/help you when you are in need they are the true friend.
I myself do not expect much from a person that I did not expect anything from. Haha. Difficult to understand? It just means I expect a lot from that person when I started to put my trust on him/her. When I allow you to know/explore my personal life, my past, my success and my failure, my family then you are the one that I trusted and I have a high expectation on you. Also, when you are the one that I would turn to when I have problem and something that I am so curious to know about, know that you are the one that I put the expectation on to. So define expectation here? I just hope you can be a good friend because no matter how bad you are I have accepted you the way you are.
But I also know and understand, to reach people expectation and to satisfy them is hard. And I did not punished a friend when they failed to reach my expectation at some point in life. They just need time and chances. Besides, I believe that not all people will turn out to be how you expected them to be. Even me, myself could not reach the expectation of people I guess.
Friends are those that I treasure the most after family in life. As much as I never wanted to lose my family, I never never never wanted to lose that treasure and I always wanted to keep it forever in my life.
But you are not living in a fairy tale world where everything was planned by script writer and it was all perfect. You are a human and you live in a real world. Most of the times, you will be tested with the difficulty that you will go through in life. And that is the point of life where your friends and those people around you are tested as well. Before I continue, know that I do not expect a friend to be an angel. I know that we are human but sometimes it is unacceptable. Chances are what I gave to these people so that I can accept them back. As I said above, they are treasure in my life.
In life, not all people will stay with you throughout the hardship but they were there when you are happy. When you are tested with hardship, failure, sadness, or the so called "submarine low phase of life", that's when your friends and the people around you were tested as well. That is the time when you have to open your eyes and heart to see and observe those that would choose to stay with you or leave you behind. No matter how much you love them, please, open your heart to realize that they are not going to be the one that you should keep.
For me, most of the friends that I have are the treasure in life that I never wanted to lose. See how important friends to me that I keep on repeating that they are treasure? Hahaha trust me when I say you are important then you really are. I seriously love them all. Realizing that not all will stay through the tough part of my life really break my heart. Seriously. Trying to accept the fact that they actually do not care was hard. But it was part of reality of life that I should accept. See how important this part is, that I made it bold and italic.
Lesson that I learnt for these past few months :
1. " Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you. "
2. " You'll end up real disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. "
Shakespeare said : I always feel happy, you know why? Because I don't expect anything from anyone. Expectations always hurt.
I really would like to walk together so that we can go far but if you choose to walk fast then at one point of the journey you might lose me. If you choose to turn back and teach me to walk fast then I may work hard and follow but if you think the journey is more important then I will be happy if you walk fast and finish it on your own.
Maybe stop expecting from people is the management of the problem right ?
Have you ever thought why the proverb was made? Do read about the ambiguity of this so called proverb/idiom. I am also not sure do we call this proverb or idiom? Correct me if I am wrong. Been reading too much novel I forgot how proper English function.
Well basically it means when a friend stay/help you when you are in need they are the true friend.
I myself do not expect much from a person that I did not expect anything from. Haha. Difficult to understand? It just means I expect a lot from that person when I started to put my trust on him/her. When I allow you to know/explore my personal life, my past, my success and my failure, my family then you are the one that I trusted and I have a high expectation on you. Also, when you are the one that I would turn to when I have problem and something that I am so curious to know about, know that you are the one that I put the expectation on to. So define expectation here? I just hope you can be a good friend because no matter how bad you are I have accepted you the way you are.
But I also know and understand, to reach people expectation and to satisfy them is hard. And I did not punished a friend when they failed to reach my expectation at some point in life. They just need time and chances. Besides, I believe that not all people will turn out to be how you expected them to be. Even me, myself could not reach the expectation of people I guess.
Friends are those that I treasure the most after family in life. As much as I never wanted to lose my family, I never never never wanted to lose that treasure and I always wanted to keep it forever in my life.
But you are not living in a fairy tale world where everything was planned by script writer and it was all perfect. You are a human and you live in a real world. Most of the times, you will be tested with the difficulty that you will go through in life. And that is the point of life where your friends and those people around you are tested as well. Before I continue, know that I do not expect a friend to be an angel. I know that we are human but sometimes it is unacceptable. Chances are what I gave to these people so that I can accept them back. As I said above, they are treasure in my life.
In life, not all people will stay with you throughout the hardship but they were there when you are happy. When you are tested with hardship, failure, sadness, or the so called "submarine low phase of life", that's when your friends and the people around you were tested as well. That is the time when you have to open your eyes and heart to see and observe those that would choose to stay with you or leave you behind. No matter how much you love them, please, open your heart to realize that they are not going to be the one that you should keep.
For me, most of the friends that I have are the treasure in life that I never wanted to lose. See how important friends to me that I keep on repeating that they are treasure? Hahaha trust me when I say you are important then you really are. I seriously love them all. Realizing that not all will stay through the tough part of my life really break my heart. Seriously. Trying to accept the fact that they actually do not care was hard. But it was part of reality of life that I should accept. See how important this part is, that I made it bold and italic.
Lesson that I learnt for these past few months :
1. " Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you. "
2. " You'll end up real disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. "
Shakespeare said : I always feel happy, you know why? Because I don't expect anything from anyone. Expectations always hurt.
I really would like to walk together so that we can go far but if you choose to walk fast then at one point of the journey you might lose me. If you choose to turn back and teach me to walk fast then I may work hard and follow but if you think the journey is more important then I will be happy if you walk fast and finish it on your own.
Maybe stop expecting from people is the management of the problem right ?
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