At your own pace

These days, you live a life full of expectations. That’s why we end up treating a lot of young adults with depression. 

You are expected to study the most popular course with the highest salary, you are expected to graduate with a distinction or as a first class honour, you are expected to graduate on time, you are expected to get married at the average age Malaysian citizens getting married and of course after that, you are expected to have child at the age everyone else is getting a baby. 

If you are not following the flow, you get criticized, judged and looked down. I guess these days we have to teach ourselves and our emotions to get tough in order to survive. Ignore, let them talk and do their cheap judgement and proceed with your life happily. That’s the best thing you can do for yourself. 

Build your own empire. Do it quietly. Have your own plan and do things accordingly. However, a plan will always be a plan. It may brings you to your goal or vice versa. It doesn’t matter. Plan can be anything from A to Z and it’s modifiable but you have to always stick to your goals. 

The most crucial things that you always have to have in mind is to never compare yourself or your achievements with the others. Compete, yes, healthily. But never look down on yourself. 

I have got goals in life. I wanted to be a surgeon myself. So I started early. Plan to start MRCS early but still learning hehe. Although, I am no where near but I am still trying my best and I hope I can go through it once and then I’m done. A lot of people started to comment on my life saying their inappropriate opinion and judgement. They said why don’t I build a family first. Why don’t I marry first. Why don’t I take a break from all those studying things first. And they compared me with my friends who have a career and a small family of their own all at once. Not that I don’t want to, I’ve turned down my own friend when his family and himself requested me to be part of their family. But I managed to explain it nicely and now he’s still my friend though haha and will always be my friend. (I hope one day he meets someone good for him and have a family of his own because he’s a good man). That’s the life that I chose. I have my own plan. I have my own goals in life before I settle down and build a family of my own. So what did I do to all these people who talk about me? Ignore and do what I have to do. Some people are merely jealous of what you have but some may just want to correct you. Accept opinions and filter them. Throw the dirty parts away but keep the good one. 

The same goes when it comes to studying or working. You need to ignore what everyone else is doing and achieving - Your life is about breaking your own limits and outgrowing yourself to live your best life. You are not in competition with anyone else; plan to outdo your past not other people. 

Live your life at your own pace. You have to follow your own plan not others. No matter how good their plans are, that’s their plan. We need to be creative to plan for our own. Mistakes in life will only help you grow. So don’t worry about making mistakes.