Shattered Glass

Sacred family!..The supposed home of all the virtues, where innocent children are tortured into their first falsehoods, where wills are broken by parental tyranny, and self-respect smothered by crowded, jostling egos. - August Strindberg-

Family is the most crucial support system for us humans aside from our basic needs of life. Either we are a mother, father, daughter, son, a granny or any position in the family, we will always need our family to be behind us to support us and to walk beside us through thick and thin of life. That’s why family should be there with us in whatever situations we are going through whether that is our graduation day, getting married, when we get a job or when we are fired from a job. Yes, you do have friends, but friends change from one to another. As you shift to another phase of life, you and your friends will part way and you guys will meet a new friend. Not many will stay with us. After not hearing from us for months, I guess a lot will never make the first move to say hello and there it goes, it’s the end of a good friendship. That’s my theory but if it doesn’t happen to you then you are good.

Who plays the important role in the family?

As reading this, I know a lot will say everyone which I will have agree to. Yes, to make a good family, we must work like a team, everyone is important. But, the leader is the most important of all which should be the father.

As parents, if you’re not in your children place, you won’t know how broken-hearted they are to see their parents fighting each day when all they need was just love from them both. I know as a family, problems should be shared together. However, there are things that the spouses need to settle with each other without showing it in front of their children. It’s a bad example and it’s not a good environment for children to grow in.

Lucky is the word I would use for those who grew up in a good family. Loving parents and siblings. Unfortunately, not all of us are lucky. I believe, everyone, if being given a choice, do want to be in a good family. Trust me, money can’t buy happiness for a child. No matter how much money you gave them, nothing compares to love from the family.

As for the children, what best you can do is not to blame yourself and make that as a learning experience. Set the family you have now as an example to build your own in the future. If you are happy with the family you are in now, make sure you do the same for your family in the future. However, if vice versa occur, you should not repeat the mistake because the children will always be the victim in this case. They’ll be wild and uncontrollable. The parents will blame them and that furthermore, will make the case worst. If you’re currently trap in that kind of situation, living in a separated or broken family, then be strong. Whatever religion/belief that you’re holding onto now, having faith and believing that God has the best plan for you and your family will calm you down. Cry. Look for a shoulder that you can trust to cry, a hand that for sure can help you, and the heart of a person that will help you instead of destroying you. Also, know that all that drugs wouldn’t solve your problem, but it will drag you into a bigger problem.

Like a shattered glass, it’s broken. Maybe it can be fixed by putting a glue. But no matter how strong the glue is, the damaged has been done. The defect will be there for life. I would similarly compare that to a child that grow in a broken family. The scar will be there for life. Dealing with that would not be as simple as ABC, not for a child who has not gain the maturity. I wouldn’t be able to advice at my best as I’m not a parent yet, but at least, for the parents, may the decision you make is best for your children.

"Let's raise children who won't have to recover from their childhoods." - Pam Leo