The people you met in life. You have got so many reasons to welcome them into your life and at the same time be willingly to open the door for them to walk out once the time has come to an end.
I always wanted permanent people in life. I used to have this phobia towards people leaving me after I became so dependent on them. (So close friends, please, stick around) It took me years to learn and accept that people comes and goes. I will always need to have those people who I can turn to even though we don’t cling so tightly as I believe we always have dreams and achievements to go after in life so that whenever life is hard or when I stumble and fall,whenever I need a helping hand or an ear to listen, I know who to look for and to turn to. Despite that, knowing different people at different stage of your life is different. After all, I always believe in temporary people that came in our life to teach us something, once their purposes are done, they need to move on and so does you and your life.
The reason why I like to go to different places to work, stay and study is to earn the meaning of life. You will eventually meet new people and adapt with the new environment. Different places and people will teach you different things in life. You see, they must have got their own culture, belief and understanding about life that you need to dissect and learn. You will catch something that you didn’t get to learn at A but B will teach you thoroughly about it. After all, we always have Z journey to learn and that’s definitely a lot.
Saying these, I have met people with so many problems that it heals my own scars.
Recently, at someplace that I worked temporarily, I met a young man, married for around 3 years, was not blessed with children yet. He has got a stable and respected job. His wife and himself are too busy building their empire and future that they forgot they needed time for each other. Thus, this young man came to me for love, asking me out for dinner every night, gave me flowers and presents but I’m not that kind of woman who would take advantage over situations like this. Never in my life do I ever imagine building my own happiness over other people sadness. And so I told this man that, I am not what he needed in his life, he just need his wife back and that they need to make time for each other. It’s not me that he’s searching for in the first place, it’s just happiness. I got no rights to interfere with others family matter and obviously, the problem he had with his wife initially shouldn’t be shared with any other people. And my best decision to this kind of friendship is to walk away. You can’t be a friend, it’s a toxic relationship I could say and I respect his wife as a woman.
Years ago, I still remember that I met someone that taught me to appreciate whatever I have in life. It was during my PLKN training in Selangor. She came from a family with a financial difficulty. She has got 10 other siblings and being the eldest, she has got a huge responsibility.. According to her, her father was not working and he’s an alcoholic. Mother was the only one working by selling Nasi Lemak, but her mother has got an amputated right leg due to complications of diabetes. Thus, she can only make Nasi Lemak from home and then the kids will sell them for her. I met her mother in person and I could see from her eyes that she’s an amazing and strong lady. My friend decided to work but with an SPM result, a sales promoter work was also sh could asked for in which she cou;d only earn a thousand ringgit per month. With her SPM result actually, I always believe that she can go far. However, she did not have the money to further her studies. She wanted to study and she’s a bright student. The hardest part being her was that she has got no shoulder to cry on, no ear to listen for her problems yet she needs to be strong in front of her mother and siblings. Can you feel how heavy the burden that she’s carrying only by reading these? I can and I can’t stop thinking about it. When she was telling me her stories, she was crying yet I can tell that she’s still grateful with her life. Having a life like that still makes her grateful, what makes you not grateful with your own life? The questions that I always ask myself and it heals. I haven’t been in contact with her for so many years. Nevertheless, I will always pray for her happiness and that their life are just fine and turns out better.
Also recently, I met a young girl. Being the only daughter in the family, she has got everything she ever wanted in life. Both parents has got their own business, a stable business. But she got a cancer to live with. It’s too painful that sometimes she felt like giving up.
All these experience you can’t have it all in your own life. But in order to attain maturity, confidence and become wise, you need experience. That’s why you meet people in life as their experience will teach you a lesson.
However, I do somehow felt that no matter how hard I tried to understand the difficulty of a person, how hard I tried to learn about life from a person, I just can’t. My heart can’t reach that person heart and it just build a wall around itself, refused to see anything.I guess that’s why you need to avoid jealousy and all the bad feelings as it clouds your mind and heart. It’s only heart can see what’s right. The essential are invisible to the eyes.
You got to learn that no life is perfect. You just need to be grateful for you to feel happy. All these people are temporary people that came in my life. But their presence is so meaningful that it changes me. I grow and I learn. As I collect more experience, the more I became wise in handling circumstances in life. Their life stories became a book in my mind and heart for my future references. Very useful very helpful.
However, I myself is not perfect either. We are not perfect. Move and experience a life from one place to another. You will find what you are searching for. You will find the purpose of life.
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